Looking for Mr Right

Sue was looking for her Mr Right, and so far had only been successful in attracting Mr Wrongs. Either, the sex was great but the rest of the relationship unfulfilling, or she found a good man, but he was boring and she ended up exploiting or taking advantage of his good nature. Sue was a feisty, strong character with a tough exterior.

Our Love Clinic session was to try to explore and change Sue’s energetic patterns so that she really could find a good man, ‘like her Dad’, who was caring, kind, generous and loving.

We started to build the picture out there in front of her, of what she was looking for, her perfect man, and as directed she invited this energy into her.  There was an immediate resistance, a fear of being taken advantage of with a feeling of not being worthy and deserving of goodness and an insight about her stubborn strong energy coming from insecurity about ‘does he actually mean it when he says or does something good?’

We cleared the energy, which was blocked in her heart, to enable her to start to accept the energy of goodness in. The energy was starting to flow but there were pockets of resistance inside. The next obstacle, ‘I can’t actually believe he’s out there’. And as she reached out to connect with the energy of Mr Right, out there, she felt a barrier outside her body, and a sense of ‘unworthiness, she was such a bad person’ and an insight that this had come from childhood. She felt a pressure in her chest then a specific flashback to a time when her Father who she adored had said this to her when she wouldn’t put her toys away. It was a deep old injury, deep in her solar plexus.  It took a while to soften. Then there was another flashback, when he said ‘you are just like you’re Grandmother, lazy and selfish’ again, deep in her solar plexus. The energy started to soften and flow down into her hip where it stuck, more softening until it flowed out through her knee.

We tested the memories again until the energy ran clear then I asked if she could forgive her Dad for what he said? That was in her chest and head, then when it had softened and released, there was nothing to forgive, he was doing his best. Can you forgive yourself? There was a conflict, a confused energy in the head, being selfish vs being selfless. We softened and flowed until this was clear.

Then we tested, how deserving are you of goodness now? Sue felt so much better about that now. We returned to the energy of her Mr Right outside her body and the idea of now accepting that energy in.

Now as the energy flowed in it triggered another injury in the heart, the fear of being dependent and needy. She sooo didn’t want to be needy, like her Mum. The energy was also in her head and her arms. But she was looking for someone to fix her life, because she felt she couldn’t do that herself. We softened and released all these energies, from the chest head and arms. Can you forgive yourself for this past neediness? Resistance in the neck. Soften and flow, then a fear of letting go of an old pattern, she had relied on people all her life. Soften and flow, and a realisation, this is what her Mum had done, for 40 years with her dad. Can you forgive your Mum? There was an intense anger towards her Mum, her neediness and how she behaved towards her Father for 40 years was unforgivable.

The energy was all over her body. We softened and released. Then there was remaining numbness down her right hand side of her body with pains in the right arm and leg . The anger had now become resentment, in her shoulders, and a ‘I just can’t feel love for my Mum’. There were major conflicts with her Mum and a huge shield to accepting her Mum’s love. We softened and released the energy in the arms legs and right side of the body then a realisation of how much she had ‘judged her Mum’ and not given her Mum what she needed. As her Mum craved her attention, she had backed away cringing for many years at the thought of hugging her Mum. More softening, then an insight, ‘but if I open to my Mum, then I will be vulnerable’ she felt this in her heart and her right hand side of her body. And with that we saw what all her lifelong armour was about and why she couldn’t actually allow in real love from another person because of this shield to her Mum. And why, because of this shield, preventing love from coming in and nourishing her, she had been needy in her relationships. In her disconnection, she had attracted and accepted men who had not respected her and also who didn’t know how to give love and care themselves.

So we had made great progress in our first session, and now we had the way forward for Sue. To continue to heal her relationship with her Mum and then in that new openness of heart, to begin to learn and practice how to be a more open hearted person. Sue had to learn to be more nourished by life around her, to grow a strong heart energy, as for so long this channel had been closed. In so doing she would become more able to really receive love and goodness and therefore attract love and goodness in her life.

EmoTrance is a great tool for us to explore who we are right now in relation to life around us, and to make the changes within, so that we can change what we are attracting in our life and how we then respond to that. It is a great teacher for self awareness.