Why Do I Always Fall for the Wrong Guy ?

Helen was a telephone client I had today. She said ‘ I always end up loving someone who doesn’t love me back’ and was starting to feel emotional as she spoke, the energy welling up in her chest. This was a person who was an excellent judge of character in general, had very good open trusting relationships with women animals and gay men, but when it came to heterosexual men, she was disconnected, made bad judgements, wrong interpretations of events and generally didn’t have much success.

We softened and flowed and managed to get this energy flowing down through her stomach and a thin flow down the legs and out. She went on to say ‘the idea of looking at someone you like and knowing that they don’t love you’, this produced a weird feeling in the heart and a sense of a barrier outside holding that energy of someone looking her back, as it was too painful to accept.

We released the energy in the heart area then started to introduce a little of that male energy bit by bit through the shield. As it came in, there was another shield inside her body, spinning and diffusing the incoming energy so it didn’t get further down to the injured areas below. We softened all the obstacles along the way, some of the resistances were fears such as ‘if I let him in somehow I’ll end up pregnant’ or ‘I’ll be taken advantage of’ and gradually Helen was able to stand in font of a guy, and take that energy in completely, into her heart, through her body and out. It felt warm and nice. It felt nothing to do with sex. It was completely non-threatening. She realised that she could let a man’s energy in and actually read that energy, and all the information it contained and enjoy the experience of it.

It dawned on her actually how much safer it was to be more open energetically. This way she could now truly read a person and their intentions, as opposed to just listening to their words, and that by being open, now she had repaired those old injuries, far from making foolish judgements and assessments, the judgements and assessment were more likely to be accurate. She had the realisation that even if a guy had liked her before, her own defences had disconnected her from him and from any possible deeper heart enriching experience ever happening in the relationship. Even if they had sex it was in a disconnected way. And if a guy did actually like her, she couldn’t actually feel it !!!! because she didn’t let that energy in giving her the experience and pain that they didn’t love her in return.

This was a complete revelation for Helen. So, with the old injuries now repaired, her barriers down, her energy channel now open and flowing, she is ready to explore her male relationships in a whole new way.

We set some homework to practice connecting with men, allowing their energy in fully, reading it in her whole energy matrix, and letting it go and to enjoy and learn from that experience. And if anything got triggered in her interactions, to soften and flow.